What is Happiness? How can I be happier?
You feel happiness when you get
what you were expecting or when you get what you think you deserve.
Basically, you feel happy when your
current situation matches your blueprint, your plan and your expectations!
Your blueprint is your belief
system, everyone has their own beliefs regarding a certain situation based on
the circumstances they grew up in, for example, at the beginning of your
relationship, you think that you have to put more effort and you do more for
your partner, and you forgive them for their mistakes or their forgetfulness!
And they do the same for you, so both of you are happy. After a while, maybe
after 5 years, you think you don’t need to “pretend” or you don’t need to put
more effort, and your partner does the same! So now, you still expect the same
behavior from your partner, you think about 5 years ago and you remember he/she
used to do the dishes or take out the trash or cook for you and they were fine
doing everything if you weren’t in the mood! And you still want them to be the
same, and they are not, and that makes you feel you are not loved, and that
makes you feel unhappy! Because your situation doesn’t match your blueprint, and
doesn’t match your expectations.
Therefore, to feel happy in any
situation, you either have to change your situation or your expectations. I
believe in raising my standards all the time. So I will tell you this:
Change your expectations for appreciation and your whole life will
change.
Be grateful for what you have,
including your health your ability to be kinder to people around you and be
able to make a small beautiful change in their life. Raise your standards and
try hard to reach them and then raise them again.
Start with yourself and stop
expecting anything from anybody, life will be so beautiful….
